Sat. Oct 1st, 2022
DEAR DEIDRE: AFTER I met my online date for the first time, he told me I was only giving off friendship vibes.

Now he has friend-zoned me, even though I fancy him and want a relationship.

How do I change my vibe so he likes me back?

I’m 17 and he’s 19.

I came out as gay last year and haven’t had much experience – this was my first proper date.

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I’ve tried telling him I’m into him, but he says he isn’t feeling it.

How do I change my vibe so he likes me back?

DEIDRE SAYS: You can’t make someone else have feelings for you when they don’t, unfortunately.



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This guy just didn’t feel any chemistry with you – what he calls your “vibe” – but another guy will.

Next time you have a date with someone you like, flirt a little, make lots of eye contact and be tactile, so they know how you feel.

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